2008年4月12日 星期六

婚.分

婚姻,在現代的人眼中,究竟是什麼的一回事?
記得早前,聽過Brian的短講,他提出現今的人,婚姻只是一紙婚書。
當時的反應是覺得他太一概而論,但最近因為一些事,從新反思婚姻的意義。
對於有宗教的夫妻來說,婚姻可能是一個應許,
但對於一些沒有宗教的夫妻,沒有了宗教的束縛,
又是什麼維繫著一段婚姻呢?
難道真的只是一紙婚書? 感情的建立、承諾都只是一張紙!?
我記得我之前說過,不到四十歲不結婚,媽媽取笑我的無知。
選擇遲婚的原因,一是因為連一個愛是什麼也不知的人,有何資格談婚論嫁?
再者,我相信我需要一段時間,甚至窮一生,才能了解婚姻的意義。
若在結婚之後,才發現當初在婚姻註冊處的承諾,
只是當時一時想對對方的承擔,而沒有"婚姻深層意義"的追求,
生兒育女之後,一句分手,痛的是誰?
作為單親家庭的兒子,我很清楚痛的是誰~可幸的是,我有個好媽媽!
但天下的父母,請別以為你忍受對方很痛苦,不要忘記
真正痛的是誰? 我們已經不是小孩了......

2 則留言:

匿名 提到...

I understand what you mean by "pain". Children are the ones who get hurt the most in a failed marriage. I was one of those children...so...I totally understand that feeling. But yeah, I think time has changed...marrige may not mean as much to people now than a century or two ago.
I'm glad that you've already had thoughts about this...I didn't really think deeply about this until recently....T.T

Reginald 提到...

haha! I am not as mature as you imagined. I was trying to express sth that I suddenly think of, but post it here with a logical way.